Make your kids as proud of you as you are of them.

Dec 19, 2023 | Private Coaching

Do you think your children might be a little bit disappointed if you, their parent, had neglected to use the many skills and talents they know you possess?

Do you remember when your children left home? They were excited and anxious at the same time and probably had little thought for you left at home.

But as time passed, you might have seen a change in their attitude. Perhaps they realised you could still provide love, support, and help when things got tough. Faced with the trials of life outside the home, they might have begun to realise how amazing you had been to nurture them, educate them and give them terrific security and comfort during their childhood.

And they might ask about you and what you are up to. Their conversations with you may become more adult, in which you both talk about how you spend your days. And that must feel wonderful, a ringing endorsement of all the energy and time you put into their childhood.

Unless you have nothing to say…

Do you think your children might be a little bit disappointed if you, their parent, had neglected to use the many skills and talents they know you possess? Might they be upset if you told them you had done nothing or just spent your time and money on yourself?

And, more to the point, do you think you might also be slightly disappointed in yourself? No one says it’s easy. The children leaving home is as much of a lifestyle change as their arrival all those years ago.

So, how do you use your time in such a way as to have something exciting and purposeful to tell your children when they ring or visit? The answer lies in how much you make a difference in the lives of others.

Imagine telling your children what you have done for yourself recently: buying new clothes or being pampered at a spa. They might feel that that is a bit shallow. However, if you tell them what you have done to make a difference in the lives of others through your work, in your community or by volunteering, they will be much more interested.

Indeed, they might even be proud of you.

And you know, life isn’t all wine and roses. Sometimes things go wrong. But your children will still be proud of you – at least you tried.

It’s an age-old principle, first mooted in China and India in the first millennia BCE. You get more from life by being of service to others than being of service to yourself.

And when it comes down to it, your adult children will probably respect you, even be proud of you, if you can tell them what you have done to make a difference to others.

So, if you want your children to be as proud of you as you are of them, then step up to the plate, make a difference in the world and live a life of meaning and purpose.

My name is Jeremy Deedes, and I support parents whose children have left home to re-organise their lives and money so that they grow their wealth, make a difference and live with purpose, grace and style.

The Empty Nest Navigator is a single session and ongoing support to help you get started. Find out more at jeremydeedes.com/navigator/ or register your interest now to take part in one of twelve navigator sessions between 9 and 18 January 2024.

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