The Navigator Process

Jan 3, 2024 | Private Coaching

Navigator is simple. You fix a time for an online conversation during which I ask you three questions to help you start to think about all these issues and put them into priority order.

For some, it is a to-do list. For others, a task list. Whatever you call it, you go through a process of listing the things you must do and arranging them by priority.

As an empty nester, however, your horizon is wider than the simple day-to-day. Yesterday, you made lists of clothes, fellow students to invite for birthday parties, homework schedules and health checks.

Today, you consider your relationships with your spouse, children and friends. You mull over your health and fitness and wonder if you should give up your job to start your own business or retire altogether.

Money is an ever-present consideration, and your list probably contains that question asked by the majority of empty nesters: will I run out of money before I run out of life?

And there is probably more, especially when grandchildren come along, and the health of your parents starts to deteriorate.

Your list contains both challenges and opportunities. On top of this, you wonder if you have the skills and resources to handle things for the first time, such as caring for your elderly parents or starting your own business.

Prioritise your challenges and opportunities

Your life is more complex than ever. However, the same process of listing and prioritising will stand you in good stead. But prioritising this list is more challenging than it sounds, and talking through the issues will help. I’m curious if you are already doing this informally with friends, or have you considered bringing in an outside coach or mentor?

I have facilitated these exploratory conversations with clients since 2007 and can testify to their value.

Recently, I helped an empty nest couple who were concerned because the purpose and meaning of their lives seemed to be fading away, and they feared the remainder of their lives would be empty and unfulfilling even though they still had health and energy in spades.

They wondered how they might occupy their time, meet new friends, become part of new communities, make an impact and generally continue to lead a life that gave them purpose and meaning.

During a ninety-minute conversation, I asked three open questions, listened to answers, and guided the clients as they worked out their future.

They left with a spring in their step and a plan to move to London to be close to their children and the capital’s cultural communities, wind down their practices and negotiate ongoing part-time work with their clients and employers.

The new version of my exploration meeting, the Empty Nest Navigator, does the same. I ask three questions to help you explore all your issues.

A conversation like this will leave you feeling more secure and resilient as you prioritise and plan for your contingencies. You will become excited at the torch you have lit around your opportunities, and you will grow confident knowing you have or can acquire the skills and strengths to harness them.

So, what three questions would you ask yourself to help you better understand your concerns and opportunities?

Whislt you consider this, please register your interest in enrolling in a navigator programme at

My name is Jeremy Deedes, and I support parents whose children have left home to re-organise their lives and money so that they grow their wealth, make a difference and live with purpose, grace and style.

The Empty Nest Navigator is a single session and ongoing support to help you get started. Find out more at or register your interest now to take part in one of twelve navigator sessions between 9 and 18 January 2024.

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